Importance Of Supporting Family In Recovery Over Christmas

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Family members can support their loved ones in addiction recovery by getting involved in the recovery process, helping them manage stress and family time, and understanding issues their loved ones may face during the holiday season.

How To Support Your Loved Ones In Recovery During Christmas

Christmas can be an isolating and depressing time for a person recovering from addiction without the support of their family.

They may be struggling to cope with issues of the past, find new ways to celebrate Christmas that don’t involve substances, or be dealing with mental health problems.

If you have a family member who’s recovering from alcohol or drug addiction this Christmas, it’s more important than ever to provide physical and emotional support.

Family And The Recovery Process

There’s a reason why family counseling and other services involving family members are often included in addiction treatment programs: family influence matters.

Whatever your family looks like, if you have a family member who’s recovering from substance use disorder, the support they get from you and other family members is vital to their recovery.

Research published in 2006 found that family-based treatment programs can have the following effects on family units:

  • family involvement increases a recovering person’s motivation for recovery
  • families understand the importance of recovery and express stronger support for their recovery
  • families change patterns that have worked against recovery
  • family members are better prepared for what to expect from recovery and relapse warning signs
  • families learn what their strengths are, and how to take advantage of those strengths to support their loved one’s recovery

The study found that a person in recovery experiences the following benefits as a result of their family’s involvement:

  • they’re encouraged to enter treatment or continue their recovery post-treatment
  • they’re more motivated to remain in treatment
  • there are fewer relapses
  • they enjoy a supportive and healthy environment for recovery

Not only can your loved one in recovery benefit from having family support, but being involved in the recovery process can also heal individual members and the family as a whole.

Researchers have also found that family involvement in recovery helps other family members to:

Issues Your Recovering Loved One May Face During Christmas

Depending on whether your loved one is currently in a recovery program, has just completed one, or is just starting a personal journey to recovery, their skill set for recovery and coping mechanisms will vary.

Someone who’s been through a drug treatment program and is working on recovery with counseling and peer support may be better prepared to handle the stressors of Christmas.

Here are a few of the issues your loved one might be facing this Christmas season:

  • triggers: Triggers are internal or external factors that can lead to relapse, and can include emotional distress, family tensions, trauma, anxiety, and other issues around Christmas.
  • being in withdrawal: Withdrawal can be uncomfortable, often causing nausea, vomiting, shaking, and other symptoms. These symptoms can often lead to cravings and relapse.
  • fear of failure: Your family member may worry about failing to meet the expectations of others, whether that includes remaining sober or being fully emotionally present.
  • pressure to perform: Christmas can be a performative holiday (gift-giving, lots of socialization, etc.), which can add a lot of pressure to the day for someone in recovery.
  • pre-existing issues: Mental health issues and underlying problems associated with drug use do not disappear just because it’s Christmas, which can be tough to handle alone.
  • family tensions: Your family can be a source of support, but it may also be a source of tension and unrest for someone in a delicate time of recovery and healing.
  • feeling unwelcome: Your loved one may be feeling unwanted or left out at Christmas, especially around family members who have witnessed their substance use.
  • witnessing substance use: It may be difficult for your family member to see others smoke, use drugs, or drink alcohol while they’re in recovery.
  • feeling judged: You may want to watch your loved one closely to prevent them from relapsing, but this can put them under great stress and induce feelings of judgment.
  • explanations: Some family members may inquire about your loved one’s recovery. This can make your loved one feel very uncomfortable if they’re not ready to discuss it.

How To Be Supportive Of Your Loved One In Addiction Recovery Over Christmas

If you’d like to support your loved one in recovery during the holiday season this year, you can do so by assessing their recovery needs, discussing triggers and potential issues, and more.

Be Prepared To Leave Early

It’s often best for those in addiction recovery to leave early from social gatherings to avoid being a part of heavy drinking or drug use as the party goes on.

It can be difficult to leave alone, so you and your other family members can commit to arriving and leaving early alongside your loved one.

This will be especially important if you notice that certain triggers have come up, unwanted guests arrive, or hard conversations have started.

Having an exit partner can help to make your loved one feel more comfortable with doing what’s best for their recovery and sobriety.

Remove The Pressure Of Gift-Giving

Gift-giving at Christmas time can be especially difficult for people recovering from substance abuse.

Many people have spent a significant amount of money on drug rehab programs, legal fees, medications for recovery, therapy sessions, and more.

Realistically, purchasing gifts can put a great financial burden on someone who’s invested in their recovery and needs to save their money for other pursuits.

Consider a cost-efficient gift exchange with your family this Christmas:

  • have a white elephant gift exchange
  • have each family member draw a name out of a hat, and purchase something only for that person (there are also virtual options that serve the same function)
  • exchange homemade or handmade gifts
  • set a limit on how much each person should spend on gifts
  • have a secret Santa gift exchange
  • do a book exchange, where your family members may purchase a book or bring one they already own for a free exchange
  • exchange coffee mugs
  • have a baked goods exchange, a low-cost option where each person brings one baked good to swap with others in the group
  • have a dollar store gift exchange, where each person brings gifts purchased at a dollar store

Make Non-Alcoholic Drinks

At times, people recovering from addiction may feel like they’re missing out on some of the holiday festivities of enjoying cocktails or spiked punches.

Just because they’re choosing not to have alcohol doesn’t mean they must be limited to a club soda.

You can be supportive of your family member’s recovery during Christmas by creating special holiday drinks without the alcohol.

There are countless recipes for mocktails, sparkling drinks, and fun holiday beverages that can bring the same festive spirit of enjoying a drink without including alcohol.

Be Supportive Of Your Loved One Saying No

For some families, being supportive might mean being ok with their loved ones not showing up to family functions.

Family events might be stressful and painful for your loved one in addiction recovery, especially if they’ll be in close contact with family members who have been unsupportive of their recovery or been involved with a traumatic experience.

Respecting their desire to decline an invitation is an important component of supporting their recovery.

Though you may miss their presence, this is a good sign that your loved one is recognizing high-risk situations and responding proactively to them.

Get Involved With Their Recovery Program

If your loved one is in a recovery program, such as a relapse prevention program or an inpatient program, there are likely opportunities for family involvement facilitated by the rehab center.

You can typically find family services at:

If your family member is currently attending a drug or alcohol addiction treatment program, ask them if they’d feel comfortable with you and/or other family members attending family programs.

This can help to strengthen your bond as you go through the Christmas season, working through issues and coming up with solutions as a family.

You might find family services such as:

  • family support groups
  • family therapy with your loved one
  • family education about drug and alcohol abuse
  • education about substance use warning signs, relapse signs, and other useful information regarding your loved one’s recovery

Resources For Family Members Of People In Addiction Recovery During Christmas

If you and your family members are looking for further guidance and support for how to help your loved one in recovery during Christmas, explore the resources below.

Resources For Starting New Traditions On Christmas

If you’re not sure where to get started when it comes to new traditions involving gift-giving and drinks, use some of the tips below:

Self-Help Groups

Here are a few self-help groups for family members of those in addiction recovery:

  • Al-Anon Family Groups: Get support from other family members and loved ones of people recovering from substance abuse.
  • Herren Project, Online Support Groups: Herren Project provides weekly online support group meetings for families and loved ones affected by drug or alcohol addiction.
  • Learn to Cope: You can find peer support, educational materials, and resources for family members of people in addiction recovery.

Resources For Managing Physical And Mental Health During Christmas

Below are a few resources that discuss stress, mental health, COVID-19 implications, and other helpful tips for mental health management over the Christmas season:

Resources For Helping Family Members With Addiction

Learn how to help your family member in addiction recovery this Christmas, and how to find treatment:


Canton, Massachusetts

Bedrock Recovery Center


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Plymouth, Massachusetts

Ohio Recovery Center


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Spring Hill Recovery Center


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